How to Help Older Adults Embrace Allowing Help at Home


These tips can help older adults feel comfortable allowing help at home.

“I’m just fine. I can handle everything myself.”

If this is a sentiment your elderly loved one has expressed when you’ve asked if assistance at home would help make life easier, you’re not alone. For many older adults, admitting that they need help at home can feel like surrendering their independence, and not surprisingly, they may be hesitant to have someone they don’t know come into their home and “take over” their daily affairs. Additionally, if your loved one has been diagnosed with dementia, he or she may not even recognize the need for help.

But the fact of the matter is that in-home care can provide seniors with a number of benefits, including greater independence, enhanced socialization, and increased safety. Additionally, it can provide family caregivers with peace of mind and time to engage in important self-care.

To help your loved one warm up to the idea of in-home care, Visiting Care Giving Services, the top provider of senior home care in St. Charles and the surrounding communities, makes the following helpful recommendations:

  • Be an empathetic listener. Really listen to why your older loved one feels resistant to the idea of having in-home care and respond with empathy. Perhaps your loved one is worried that a caregiver will not do things, like laundry, meal preparation, etc., the way that your loved one prefers. This is a valid concern. No one who has spent a lifetime creating his or her home and routines wants to have someone come in and do things differently, and that’s not what a caregiver should do. A well-trained caregiver understands and abides by the preferences of the client. Explaining this to your loved one and having him or her involved in the process of selecting a caregiver may help alleviate feelings of uncertainty and provide him or her with a feeling of control.
  • Get the doctor’s recommendation. Because physicians are typically seen as persons of authority, your older loved one may be more open to the idea of home care services if he or she feels that this type of help has been recommended by his or her physician or another trusted professional such as a trust officer or attorney.
  • Let the senior know you’ll share the cost. Many seniors are hesitant to hire in-home care because they are worried about the cost. If families will be sharing the cost of care with their senior loved one or covering the cost of care completely, this may relieve some of the worry an older loved one feels. It’s important to note that in this scenario, older adults may still object to family members covering or sharing in the cost of care because they worry about it being a financial burden. In either case, reassure your loved one that the cost of in-home care is within your budget and that you want to provide this assistance.
  • Describe it as temporary help. If your loved one has dementia and sometimes forgets the things you say, it may be effective to say that the help is for a short-term period of time. This allows your loved one to get used to having a caregiver in his/her home.
  • Start gradually. To help ease your loved one into the idea of having home care assistance, explain to him/her that having someone in several times each week to help clean would free up time for socializing with friends or for engaging in hobbies.
  • Explain that it will help you. Telling your loved one that an in-home caregiver will help you worry less is a good strategy that preserves feelings of independence and a sense of dignity.

At Visiting Care Giving Services, we know that it can be difficult for seniors to accept help at home, and that’s why we go the extra mile to ensure an ideal caregiver match. By taking the time to really understand the needs, personality and interests of your loved one, we can identify caregivers with similar traits who will encourage him/her to remain active and independent.

Our highly-trained care staff are experts in quickly establishing a bond and developing a trusting relationship with the seniors we serve, helping not only enhance fulfillment in life, but also providing peace of mind. What’s more, we can provide services for just a few hours a week, up to and including 24-hour, round-the-clock care. Our services are completely customizable and can be adjusted based on the needs of each individual client. Just a few of the way we can help include providing:

  • Friendly companionship
  • Engaging activities, such as games, puzzles, exercise, hobbies/interests, etc.
  • Planning and preparing nutritious meals
  • Personal care assistance, such as bathing, dressing and help using the bathroom
  • Light housekeeping and laundry services
  • Transportation to appointments and social outings
  • Specialized care for those with Alzheimer’s or other types of dementia
  • And much more

Contact us to learn more about our top-rated home care services and for additional tips on how to help your loved one warm up to the idea of assistance from a caregiver. We welcome the opportunity to learn more about your particular situation and we would be honored to develop a personalized care solution to help your loved one thrive. To learn more about our St. Charles home care in the surrounding communities and to schedule a complimentary in-home consultation, reach out to us today at (636) 493-9058.